Anonymous asked: Forgive me for potentially being offensive, but do you actually love your submissive? I don't really understand BDSM and from what I've heard it's just about control and sex. Again, sorry for potentially offending, I'm just trying to learn.
You do not have to apologize at all as you are learning. BDSM is of course about sexual intercourse and things that involve sex and Bondage in and of itself is classified as a paraphilia which just means a negative sexual need. Example being inflicting pain on someone to reach climax. So yes absolutely BDSM involves sex and control for the Dom and submission for the sub. However, it is not that way in all aspects. If you are a Dom it is your job to take care of your sub or subs, I have only one and want only so that is not an issue for me. BDSM is something I suggest you research in the field of psychology specifically Sadism and Masochism. I am both and my sub is as well. I do not actually love her and she does not actually love me because we both feel love is a gradual concept that happens over time. We both care about each other however and help each other with everything. We do everything that a healthy relationship would except she is my sub and I am her Dom. I encourage you to look past the stigma and stereotype of typical BDSM and look up what it really is about in relationships. — SS